may i feel said she
"Believing we are loved is hard; it can seem seductively easy to accept, on an almost unconscious level, the idea that our partners perpetually have one foot out the door, that we must force, cajole, bribe, or police them into staying with us. And, should a partner choose to leave, we can tend to double down…it happened because we didn’t force, cajole, bribe, or police them enough. If only we’d enforced the rules more strictly, they would have stayed.

I would like to propose the radical idea that believing we are loved and cherished is the assumption that underlies nearly all successful relationships. I would also like to challenge everyone who reads these words to put this idea to the test. I am, after all, an empiricist. Let’s build relationships predicated on the notion that we don’t have to make our partners stay with us; we merely need to accept that we are cherished, and cherish those around us in return, and our partners will want to stay with us.

Who’s with me?"
» Relationship Assumptions: The Good, the Bad, and the WTF? > More Than Two Book Blog (via brutereason)

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disappointingpopsiclejokes:

Disappointing Popsicle Jokes
"The place in which I’ll fit will not exist until I make it."
— James Baldwin (via cecileemeke)

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"Instead of thinking about how to get love, begin to offer it. If you give, you receive. There is no other way."
— Osho (via jamstains)

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"As a male writer, do you feel your work distracts from your traditional role of hunting and killing wild animals?"
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neurosciencestuff:

Human consciousness is simply a state of matter, like a solid or liquid – but quantum
Thanks to the work of a small group neuroscientists and theoretical physicists over the last few years, we may finally have found a way of analyzing the mysterious, metaphysical realm of consciousness in a scientific manner. The latest breakthrough in this new field, published by Max Tegmark of MIT, postulates that consciousness is actually a state of matter. “Just as there are many types of liquids, there are many types of consciousness,” he says. With this new model, Tegmark says that consciousness can be described in terms of quantum mechanics and information theory, allowing us to scientifically tackle murky topics such as self awareness, and why we perceive the world in classical three-dimensional terms, rather than the infinite number of objective realities offered up by the many-worlds interpretation of quantum mechanics.
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milsotherapy:

micdotcom:

Watch this former Marine destroy military rape jokes in less than 2 minutes
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Realest thing I’ve ever read
humansofnewyork:

"Do you remember the happiest moment of your life?""One day, I was sent home from my final exams because my mother had not been able to pay the registration fees. On the way home, a man came up to me and asked what was wrong. ‘Nothing,’ I told him. He asked me again. So I told him that I’d been sent home from school. He then gave me the money I needed to take my exams. I’d never seen him before, and I’ve never seen him again."(Entebbe, Uganda)
hannabalxmarie:
the white man’s mantra
gaywrites:

"Our LGBT community is resilient and strong, and particularly for those of us who are young and have our entire lives in front of us, it may feel like we are invincible. I’ve learned the hard way that I’m not. Cancer has taken a lot from me physically and emotionally. But it hasn’t taken away my voice, and it hasn’t taken away my hope. I hope to find out two weeks from now that I’m cancer-free."
Andy Cray, an activist for trans equality, health care access, and LGBT youth, died yesterday after battling cancer. He was 28. This Sunday will be his one-week wedding anniversary. Though I didn’t know him personally, we have many mutual friends from college and activist circles. His passing is nothing short of heartbreaking. 
He wrote a piece for the Advocate a while back about his battle with cancer and the importance of health care; read it here. If you are so moved, his family and friends have asked that donations be made in his name to the National Center for Transgender Equality.
Thank you for everything, Andy. You made lives better. 

He was recently married to an acquaintance of mine. Rest in peace.
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Will I be something?
Am I something?

And the answer comes:
You already are.
You always were.
And you still have time to be.

"
Anis Mojgani, “Here I Am” (via contramonte)

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